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The Dragon of our Prejudices

by Shaeri Richards
March 24th, 2012

When we’re blinded by fear, it’s difficult to recognize truth. When fear takes over our hearts, trust disappears and along with it the ability to experience happiness, peace and joy.

I was prompted to write this post by the convergence of a couple stories  in the national media and a spate  of burglaries that happened in my normally crime free town of Sedona, AZ.  First there’s the story of Trayvon Martin, the young black man shot to death by a neighborhood watch volunteer in a gated community for the great crime of walking down the street with a bag of skittles and and an iced tea. Then NPR ran a story about a study indicating that voters tend to support or reject the president’s health care reform package based on racial attitudes. Next I was chatting with a neighbor and he told me how he was keeping an eye on any workers  coming in and out of our neighborhood to make sure none of them appeared to be casing houses with the intent of coming back to rob them later.  For me, each story brought to mind a common theme.  We become suspicious and fearful of others when we pre-judge them, when we have prejudice about who and what they are based on our unconscious attitudes and inbred fear.

In the instance of Trayvon Martin, the shooter (George Zimmerman) describes Trayvon as “suspicious” in a 911 call, simply because he was a young black male walking down the street wearing a hoodie. There had been a series of burglaries in his Sanford, Florida neighborhood and as a  neighborhood watch volunteer, Zimmerman was on guard.  But Trayvon, it turns out, was visiting  his  Dad’s fiance in this multi-racial neighborhood and had just walked down to the convenience store to get a snack.  There was nothing dangerous about him; he was not armed, had no criminal record and no previous trouble with the law.  Because he was unfamiliar to Mr. Zimmerman and appeared “suspicious,” he is now dead. This is a complicated story that brings up many issues for many people, but I would  just like to pose this question: What if Zimmerman had not been, suspicious and afraid? What if he had left his gun at home, taken the time to approach the young man in a friendly fashion, and simply said, “I’m a neighborhood watch volunteer and I’m just wondering what brings you to the neighborhood?” The outcome would likely have been very different.

I found the NPR story to be both eye-opening and disheartening. (You can listen here.) It was based on a study by social scientist Michael Tesler. The results of his study show that people tend to favor or oppose health care policy based on racial attitudes.  The premise seems pretty simple. Tesler took a single piece of health care legislation and presented it in two different ways. Some respondents were told that the legislation was proposed by President Bill Clinton. Others were told that it was proposed by President Obama. The results were pretty astounding.  It seems that responders who admitted to being racially conservative tended to oppose the legislation when they were told it was proposed by Obama, but they supported it when told it was proposed by Clinton.  Remember, it’s the exact same piece of legislation, and both Presidents are democrats. The only variable is their difference in race.  When we look at life through the filter of our prejudices, we just don’t see things clearly.

I’m as guilty as anyone of falling into unconscious prejudgment.  I live in the lovely town of Sedona, Arizona near the trail head for a popular Sedona hiking trail.  Tourists are always driving up and down our street either headed for the trail, or just checking out the beautiful red rock views.  Even so, the day after I learned of the burglaries (one of which happened on my street) I was driving up the road when I passed a man sitting in a car parked in front of a neighbor’s house. I noticed in my rear view mirror, that he pulled out and turned onto a side street just as I passed him.  To my chagrin, I found myself doing a U-turn and attempting to follow him. A moment later he reappeared on the main drag  having driven a circular side street.  Just another tourist enjoying the views in the hood. Like I said, when we’re blinded by fear, it’s difficult to recognize truth.

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The Magic Mirror: A Pathway to Transformation

by Shaeri Richards
March 3rd, 2012

What do you do when someone or something is bugging you?  I can tell you that for many years I would try to get the outer world to change so that I could feel better. Sometimes I might even succeed, but in the end I found that using my power to demand, insist or manipulate someone outside of me to be different simply led to more problems in the end.  Blaming someone for my problems and feelings didn’t work so well either. In psychological terminology, this “blame game” is called “projection” by Freudian types and  “shadow work” by the Jungians.  I call it the “The Magic Mirror.” The idea of it actually roots in what’s known as the “Emerald Tablet,” said to be written by the Ancient Egyptian Master Hermes Trismegistus.  In essence the message of the Emerald Tablet is this: “As above, so below, inner and outer are the same.”  In other words, if you want to live your life as an empowered person, free to enjoy peace, harmony and fulfillment without requiring the outer world to be different, the pathway is through inner change. The process is one of self-responsibility and acceptance.   You can learn a lot about it in my book, Dancing with your Dragon: The Art of Loving your Unlovable Self, but I want to share an exercise that you might find helpful here.  I’d love to hear how the exercise works for you.  Please feel free to leave me a comment, or send me an e-mail: shaeri (at) dancingwithyourdragon (dot) com.

Practice: Gazing in the “Magic Mirror”

         Utilize this practice when you find yourself disturbed by a situation that is occurring in the outer world. Read the exercise all the way through before you try it.

  • Grab a pen and paper and sit quietly in a place where you are unlikely to be disturbed.
  • Take a couple of deep breaths and spend a moment or two allowing yourself to relax.
  • Close your eyes and bring to mind the person in the outer world who is causing you to feel disturbed. Now allow a 2 or 3-word description of this person to form inside your head. Stay with the first words that come and write them down. (This description is not meant to define the other person. It is simply a tool for mirroring the archetype that may be causing difficulties inside of you.)
  • Once you have the words in front of you, close your eyes again and ask your intuition to guide you to the place inside of your physical body where the energy represented by these words has taken up residence. Just scan your body and notice where you feel the words resonate inside.
  • When you find the place in your body where the energy resides, the next step is to simply let it be, allowing it to exist exactly the way that it is in this moment. You don’t need to change it, get rid of it or make it different.
  • If you find the exercise brings up a lot of emotional energy, allow yourself to express it in the safety of your own room until it is out of your body. Make sounds. Do air kicks. Scream, beat pillows, whatever you need to do to get it out.
  • If you notice resistance to accepting the energy, than allow yourself to accept the resistance as well. Whatever you notice, simply feel it and accept it.

The acts of feeling and acceptance engage the transformative quality of the heart, which allows the painful, challenging energies to melt and reform. This practice doesn’t require you to condone the behavior of the person that you are upset with, but by recognizing the places inside where you carry the very same qualities that are disturbing you on the outer, you can begin to discover a place of compassion toward these qualities and perhaps begin to relate to the outer person from a different state of being. The practice of acceptance will also lead to detachment from any painful energy that you might carry. A detached view will help you make choices and take action regarding the disturbing situation from a place of clarity, rather than a place of resentment, hurt or anger.

  • Make notes of any insights that may arise for you during the course of the process. Also repeat the process as often as necessary until the disturbing energies begin to melt and relax their hold on you.

 

 

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When Does Self Interest Become Evil?

by Shaeri Richards
November 30th, 2011

 

I certainly wasn’t planning to do a blog post on evil, since I enjoy being the love and light girl.  But when I woke up this morning, the idea of evil was on my mind. Perhaps it was stimulated by the movie I saw last night.  I attended the Northern Arizona premier of the new Independent film “Margin Call,”(presented by the Sedona International Film Festival.)  It tells the story of the financial meltdown of 2008 from the perspective of a fictional company given the role in this movie of initiating the sell-off of worthless mortgage assets, a sell-off that ultimately leads to the stock market/ housing market crash that we’re still suffering from today.

What struck me about this excellent, well-acted film were the choices made by nearly every character to “save his or her own skin” even though it meant that many others would be hurt in the end. There were no heroes, nobody trying to help the little guy, no one trying to save anyone else. Money was king and everyone went for it. I call this kind of behavior “jungle consciousness” as it leads to a life about survival of the fittest. In this movie, love of money truly was the root of some pretty serious evil.

But what is evil? The oxford American Dictionary defines it as, “harmful or tending to harm.” It’s also associated by definition with the devil. (Funny, evil is right there in the word.) In Western religious mythology, the devil and the dragon are interchangeable with each other. Since I’m the author of the book, “Dancing with your Dragon: The Art of Loving your Unlovable Self,” I guess I’m on target after all.

In my book, I define the dragon as the “me first” part of us that tends to look out for it’s own needs without taking anyone else into consideration. But, when we act to take care of ourselves first and others happen to be hurt by the fallout, do we have any responsibility in the matter? If we see a building is on fire and run out without letting anyone else know, are we to blame?

The next word that comes to my mind is “altruism”, derived from the Latin Root. “Alteri Huic” meaning “To this other.” Altruism means selflessly caring about someone else.  There wasn’t much caring in “Margin Call,” not much love.  The most love expressed in the entire movie came from Kevin Spacey and it was expressed to his dog.

Of course it was just a movie, but it reflects an attitude that has roots in some pretty difficult struggles our society is wrestling with right now. The whole idea of every man for himself rests in opposition to the spiritual principle of unity, the mystical experience of bliss and oneness–one species one, one humanity. I often have this experience myself, so I know the truth of it.  But I also know there are times when the feeling of oneness seems far away.

The conflict arises when the spiritual and the material oppose one another, rather than working together. Spirit is fluid, boundless and eternal, while objects of the material world, appear, dense, distinct, solid and limited. As human beings, we are both spiritual and material. We exist in both worlds. But when we are caught in “survival” mode, (does that word have evil in it, or is it just my imagination?) sometimes the spiritual part seems far from reach.  To put it in simpler terms, my hungry belly does not get full just because a fellow human sits down for a meal. If I want to survive, I have to find the will to eat for myself.

At the physical level we are separate, individual creatures. And as such we each have to make our own choices. When and what do we eat? Do we take responsibility for our own actions, or do we blame others for our situation? Do we act in a way that is just beneficial for our self, or do we act in a way that takes others into consideration as well. Are we just out for what we believe in, or are we willing to allow others their opinions as well.

When we only take the material world into consideration, without also bringing in the spiritual world, we get separated from our soul, from the part that can bring us balance. Our souls can guide us to a place where our daily actions automatically become beneficial to both ourselves and others because our actions are infused with love.

A “Dancing Dragon” is a conscious dragon.  Each of us has a selfish, self-centered part and it’s up to each of us to be aware of what it’s up to in any given moment. It’s up to us to ask, are we being helpful or hurtful as we move through the world. Are we making choices just to save our own skin, or do our actions have a spill over affect that actually spreads goodness in the world. It’s my belief that when we care about each other, humanity and unity don’t have to be mutually exclusive. In fact if you add an additional “U” to “hum-a-nity” you get Hum-UNITY.”  Perhaps by approaching our daily life with a little more U-nderstanding we can journey to a place where self-interest and the good of the whole can be one and the same.

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